|What is Counselling?
Counselling gives you the time and space to talk about your
feelings and problems in a safe and confidential setting. It can
help if you are feeling depressed, isolated or afraid. It helps
you to gain a clearer understanding of yourself and your
situation. It is not always easy or comfortable and perhaps the
hardest part to come to terms with is the fact that you have to
do most of the work yourself. Your counsellor will help support
you and guide you, but cannot do the work for you. They do not
give 'advice' or tell you what to do, but they will support you
in deciding what is best for you.
There are no easy answers to the problems that abuse brings, and
sometimes it may feel like things are getting worse before they
get better, but you must always try to remember that, in time,
things will improve.
Counselling can help you to accept your feelings and show you
that expressing this emotion does not mean you are 'going mad.'
Your counsellor will help you to express how you feel in safe
and appropriate ways.
Feelings often bring pain. Counselling does not mean you will
always feel total happiness, and it does not mean that you will
be able to forget about the abuse that you have suffered. What
it does offer you is the understanding to accept your past, to
find ways to live with it, and to move on with less acute pain.
As you go through counselling, you will begin to feel
differently about yourself, your life and relationships. You may
well decide to make changes. Your counsellor will never put you
under pressure to do this - counselling is about you deciding
what is right for you - when the time is right.